It’s hard to define a friend these days. Facebook has created a world where almost anyone can be your friend. But what really defines a friend, at least to me, is someone you can count on. It’s someone you can trust. It’s someone who is there to listen when you have a problem no matter how big or how small.
I would like to think that I have a lot of friends, but with that said, I only have a few truly great friends that I can really trust 110%, through thick and thin. And that’s OK with me. When I need to talk, I don’t want to sort through my contacts wondering who to call – I just pick up the phone and dial.
When I left work today I felt good, really good. Not because I had a great day at work (I didn’t), not because it’s Thursday, not because the weather is great, but because I felt relieved. I have always relied on my close friends to share my thoughts and feelings with and when stress levels peak and change confronts you head-on, I go to someone I trust to talk things through. There’s nothing better than that feeling of relief once you get something off your chest. Even if it’s something you’ve had bottled up for weeks, once you say it aloud, it becomes real.
And the great thing is when you are talking with a friend, you have someone to share that burden with you and that truly is a special thing. It happened to me today and that’s why I felt so good leaving work. I didn’t reach any sort of resolution of find a solution, but I shared my concerns with someone who understood my feelings and made me realize I’m not alone – that I have friends who will stick by me regardless of what happens.
So while I was driving home, I thought of something my dad said to me recently. He told me this weekend that I am very fortunate to have such good friends. This was after spending time around one of my closest friends and meeting his wife for the first time. Then the next day I was able to have lunch with a group of friends in Raleigh and I realized how right he was. I have a special group of friends who have for the most part been in my life for a while and they are the people I turn to when I am confused, upset or just looking for someone to listen.
And that’s what motivated me to write today.